Articles by: Deb Cheslow

Finding A New Love

It is only natural for people to derive much of their self-identity – and even their self-worth – from what they DO in life – their careers… their hobbies… And we invoke the most powerful two words in language when we discuss those things – I AM. I AM a business owner… I AM a mother… I AM a coach… For many years, my identity was that of a US Air Force Pilot. Then, I became a Mom, and that was my identity. As my children grew up and required less of my time and energy, I searched for something else to […]

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The Marathon Effect

Have you ever noticed how it doesn’t seem to matter how big or how small a project is, you reach a point about 80% of the way through when you feel like you will never be able to finish it? I call this phenomenon “The Marathon Effect” because as Angie started running in races and competing in triathlons and the distances progressed, I noticed a funny thing… Regardless of the distance of the race, she got to a point where she wasn’t 100% sure that she would be able to finish it. In a 5K race, it might come at […]

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UnREALogical Health

HAPPY NEW YEAR, EVERYONE! Welcome to 2018! The beginning of the new year is always a great time to take a look back and take stock of our accomplishments over the past year and then look forward to what we want to achieve during the coming year. I’m not a big believer in “New Year’s Resolutions” because they just never tend to work out. In fact, most people will have given up on their resolutions by the beginning of February. However, I am a HUGE believer in goal-setting and then utilizing a system to make those goals realities! And we […]

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Are We Having Fun Yet?… The Holiday Edition

Handling the inevitable stress, tension, and disappointment of holiday gatherings…   It’s a scenario that plays out across the globe every holiday season. Families come together to celebrate and enjoy each other’s company. But how long does the celebration last before someone gets their feelings hurt and walks off to sulk in another room?  How long before an argument starts?  How long before the vibration at the gathering changes from celebration to stress and tension? How many times have you left a family gathering thinking to yourself (or even complaining out loud): “Why do we do this every single year?  Was that fun?” Why […]

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The Path

When we embark upon a self-development journey and desire to achieve some big goal, I think most people understand that they’re not going to sit in their living room with their eyes closed chanting “BMW… BMW… BMW…” and open their eyes to find a brand new, shiny BMW sitting there. That’s not how it works. However, I think there are a lot of people who think the process will be a lot quicker and a lot easier than it often is – especially when we are talking about great big, UNREALOGICAL goals. On the contrary, my personal experience and that of […]

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Rise Above The Storm

It’s been an interesting few weeks here in Florida. Hurricane Irma arrived on our radar on Labor Day as it quickly toppled previous records for big, bad hurricanes in the Atlantic. The forecasts (spaghetti models) were ridiculously unhelpful for deciding how to proceed. Should we evacuate the coast? The state? The entire eastern seaboard? Nothing east of Kansas and south of Pennsylvania seemed to be outside the cone of probability. You could almost feel the level of panic begin to rise as people began to make preparations for an epic storm – many of these people (myself included) just had repairs from […]

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Why Change is So Hard

Change is the key to success. We can’t keep doing the same thing and expect a different result. We can’t continue to be the same person—thinking the same thoughts, feeling the same feelings, and acting in the same old ways—and  expect our lives to change. We have to change, and therein lies the problem: Change is scary and uncomfortable. Every step of the way, the bully in our brain is tugging and pulling at us, holding us back and keeping us stuck. Why? Because our brains are wired to keep us stuck, so, if we want to create a new […]

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Fear

I was watching a short presentation by Mastin Kipp (founder of The Daily Love) the other day and he was discussing the fallacy of fear, and how, when you work your way around to the other side of fear, you find exhilaration. I started thinking about it and the physical sensations of exhilaration and anxiety are almost exactly the same – there’s a kind of buzz in your brain and a funny feeling in your chest… your pulse rate rises… and you get a certain tunnel vision type of focus on the situation at hand.  The difference is the thoughts […]

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