remarkablecommunitiesSamantha Schiebe… Yessenia Suarez… Ebony Wilkerson… Lolita Carson-Grayson

These are but a few of the names that have been in the Central Florida press recently as high-profile victims of alleged domestic violence.  It seems no matter where you turn there is another story about another woman who has been murdered or badly injured by someone who once professed to love them.

But here’s what I know… Domestic violence has become the 5-ton elephant in the room; everyone knows it is there, but no one wants to talk about it.

Six months ago, my company, Deb Cheslow Consulting, decided that our “community service” platform would be domestic violence awareness because it is such a horrible crime with generational impact (boys who witness abuse in their childhood home are more likely to grow up to abuse their intimate partners, while girls who witness abuse are more likely to tolerate abuse in their adult relationships – it is a self-perpetuating cycle).

I soon learned that 3 of the 4 members of my Executive Team had been personally affected by domestic violence – 75% of my team!  If the numbers are that high in my company, how high are they elsewhere?

As I began speaking about our domestic violence initiative, more and more people began sharing truly chilling stories of unreported, undocumented domestic violence!  Domestic violence is rampant in our communities and that is UNACCEPTABLE in this day and age!

imagePeople are so afraid to step forward – afraid of what people might think, afraid of losing their children, afraid of losing their jobs, afraid, afraid, afraid…

They allow that fear to paralyze them and keep them stuck in miserable, abusive relationships and fall short of their true potential year after year.

My entire consulting practice focuses on identifying my clients’ fear of change and then stepping them through a system to find the courage to look their fear in the face and take the big actions that lead to big results, in their life or their business.

Think about it, leaving an abusive relationship is a scary proposition – it’s a fear of change!  The root cause of domestic violence and all the other issues that I work my clients through on a daily basis are, at their core, one and the same – habitual patterns, past conditioning, and fear of change.  So, the same system I use to quantum leap the success of my clients also works to break the cycle of abuse.

This realization excited me and drove me with purpose to amplify our domestic violence awareness campaign.  Our initiative breaks the cycle of abuse from within through education and awareness, while also contributing much needed funding to provide resources and healing for survivors.

I am thrilled to announce our initiative as the keynote speaker at “A Brighter Future:  Healthy Families, Community Support & Safety,” presented by The Domestic Abuse Council of Volusia County and the State Attorney’s Office for the 7th Judicial Circuit at Bethune-Cookman University on Friday, April 4th at noon (program agenda from 9am-4pm).   Please accept my invitation to join in the discussion as we Build Remarkable Communities One Mind at a Time.

For more information, contact Freddie Smith at 386-585-2994 or visit

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